You know who you are. You don’t say “NO” to others for fear of disappointing them. You struggle to ask for what you want. You put on a smile while deep down you feel like you are living a double life. All of this keeps you trapped in shame and wrestling with the world’s harshest critic - yourself. 

If you’re someone who struggles with people pleasing, you can rationally understand that saying, “NO” and asserting yourself are things that you “should” do. But you still struggle to do it. This is because your rational mind is at the mercy of your subconscious mind - the part of your mind that has been storing programs about behaviors and beliefs all your life. It does this to keep you alive.

Your subconscious stores this not only in your mind, but also in your body and nervous system. This is why even if you want to say, “NO” you struggle to do so. Your hands start to sweat and tremble. Your throat suddenly tightens. You feel like a trapped animal. Changing this requires changing at the level of your subconscious beliefs and behaviors. You must become aware of the beliefs guiding your behaviors. Only after becoming aware of them can you rewrite them.

Imagine for a moment you have just fainted and slept for 5 years. When you wake up you have no clue that 5 years has passed. As far as you know, it has only been 30 minutes. So you get up and start orienting to your surroundings. You know what your mind is thinking. “What happened?”And you start to look for what is familiar around you. Because familiarity is perceived by your mind as safe. If you lack familiarity, your mind feels it lacks safety.

Now imagine for a moment that instead of fainting, a part of your mind simply stayed frozen in time, right around when you started solidifying your people pleasing behaviors that kept you alive. Your adult self doesn’t need it to survive, but your younger self still believes you need it. This is why connecting to your inner child is so important. Your inner child needs to realize on the deepest subconscious level, “I don’t have to do this anymore. I get to create a new reality.”

To create this new reality will also mean learning how to rewire your nervous system patterning. Rather than perceive saying, “NO” as a threat, you can teach your nervous system how to tolerate, release, and ground the anxiety and tension you feel. A stable nervous system leads to a stable mind. What was once perceived as a threat can now be perceived as a playful challenge. These are the skills I will teach you how to build in my course Freeing The People Pleaser.

I have put together four modules that provide you the practical knowledge and skills you need to know to begin liberating yourself from the beliefs and behaviors that have kept your life small. I’ve designed this course to give you an intellectual and embodied understanding of how to liberate yourself from the people pleaser dynamic. This isn’t just another course to help you understand something while doing nothing.

This course will teach you the exact tools you need so you know exactly what you’re doing once you step out into the world and take on the challenges I’ve provided for you in the last module. Once you have integrated the teachings of this course as your new reality, you will naturally begin asserting yourself in life more and start creating the life you have always wanted to live.